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Worried About a Friend?

Ask

If you suspect a friend is depressed or thinking of suicide…ask. Simply asking will NOT give your friend the idea to commit suicide (a myth). Most depressed people have already had thoughts about death or suicide. They may actually be relieved you are asking questions like:

  • I’ve notice that you’ve seemed down and have been keeping to yourself lately. What’s wrong?
  • Are you thinking of death or suicide?
  • Have you had thoughts of harming or killing yourself?

Listen

Active listening can be more helpful than talking. Take the person’s problem seriously. 75% of people who actually commit suicide hint they may have a plan to do so.

Observe

A person who is drunk or high may be more likely to act on suicidal thoughts. Be vigilant to this reality.

Remain Calm

Do not panic. Not only will you keep a clearer head, but you may have a positive effect in terms of helping the troubled person articulate his/her feelings.

Be Yourself (Genuine)

Try to avoid “trite” comments, like “It will get better”, or “You have so much to live for.” These statements have been found to not be very helpful. Rather, speak out of genuine love and concern and show how much you care for the person.

Be Caring

Even if your friend tries to put you off, stay in touch. Reach out. Invite the person to do things with you. Remember…tell the person how much you care.

Encourage Professional Assistance

Encourage your friend to seek professional help. You do not have to handle the situation alone. If your friend goes to Lindenwood Belleville, contact:

The Student Counseling and Resource Center, at (618) 239-6161. Open from 8 am to 5 pm, Monday – Friday. (…and you can always call for a consult, in order to get support and direction) 

Any time after 5:00pm or on weekends, call Campus Security at (618) 978-9797 or call 9-1-1

Keep your friend alive

If all else fails, contact Campus Security at (618) 978-9797 or call 9-1-1. It’s better to have your friend angry at you for doing so rather than being dead. If you are not with your friend during the crisis, but in contact by phone or online, encourage the friend who is suicidal to call 9-1-1 on their own, or encourage the person to call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or TTY (deaf and hearing loss) 1-800-799-4889. 

Address your own needs

Helping a distressed friend can be stressful, draining, and frustrating. It may be useful for you to talk to someone at the Student Counseling and Resource Center after you have been through this type of experience. Remember: ultimately, you are not responsible for another person’s actions. 

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